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7 Ways You’re Unintentionally Trashing Your Hair

Here’s the thing about hair:  it’s dead. Well, at least the hair you can see is (the inside of the hair follicle is still alive).

But the dead hair is what we honestly care about… it’s what we see and the part we need to keep healthy.

The problem is that when your hair gets damaged, there isn’t much you can do to repair it. Besides Olaplex, which has been scientifically proven to repair damaged hair, nothing can actually fix it once the damage is done.

That being said, the best way to make your hair healthy is to prevent damage from happening in the first place.

So how do you do that?

Well, some obvious things that cause damage are:

  • Bleaching the living heck out of your hair
  • Over-processing it with chemicals
  • Daily heat styling
  • Ripping through tangled hair with a brush

But what about the subtle things that cause damage? The things you don’t even realize are trashing your hair, yet you do them every single day?

Those are the ones you really need to worry about… because they’ll sneak up on you like little hair-killing ninjas.

Let’s talk about the 7 things you probably do every day to just wreck your hair.

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1. Using Bobby Pins and Hair Ties

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This one sneaks up on you… but I promise that it’s trashing your hair.

Let me start by telling you something about myself…

I often wear my hair in ponytails and messy buns, but after a while, I started to notice a bunch of breakage around the nape of my neck. This is because I pin up the shorter pieces with bobby pins, which just causes more breakage. It’s a vicious cycle that I can’t get out of.

The thing is… when you use bobby pins, especially multiple bobby pins that overlap each other, they cause a lot of friction against your hair. There’s no doubt that your hair will eventually break if you keep causing friction in the same spot.

Furthermore, your hair sometimes gets tangled on the bobby pins, causing you to rip through it when you pull them out.

It may not seem that bad, but if you damage even a few pieces of hair each day, you’ll eventually have big chunks of breakage.

On the same token, wearing your hair in a ponytail (especially tight ponytails) every day can cause the same type of breakage from hair tie friction.

The best thing you can do is to take advantage of the back-from-the-90’s scrunchie trend or use looser hair ties. You can and should alternate where your ponytail sits each day and where you place the bobby pins. Maybe even try going without bobby pins while at home.

 2. Brushing Your Hair While Wet

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Ripping through wet hair with a hairbrush is an awesome way to just wreck your hair.

Well, to be honest, brushing your hair at all can cause a lot of breakage if not done correctly. Furthermore, when you brush from the top down, it causes little tangles to become bigger knots, which inevitably leads to hair damage.

You also need to be gentle when brushing hair, which most of us are not.

When you’re hair is wet, it has a different type of protein bond than dry hair. When you stretch it out with a hairbrush, it won’t bounce back to its original state. Besides trashing your hair, this can also permanently damage the cuticle.

So put all that together and you have the perfect recipe for damaged hair.

You’re probably thinking, “but my hair is so tangled after I get out of the shower… how do I fix that without brushing?”

Don’t worry… you can still detangle it. You just need to be gentle.

Take extra care of your hair while it’s in a fragile state. Use detangler to help the pieces glide away from each other. Use a wide-tooth comb to slowly work out the tangles from the bottom-up.

Give your hair some love, man.

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3. Never Using a Heat Protectant

Not using a heat protectant can wreck your hair. Find out what other 6 things you do every day are trashing your hair!

Did you know that flat irons usually run between 300 and 400 degrees? As you could imagine, this totally strips the hair’s moisture and causes serious hair damage.

The good thing is that the hair product world has come a really long way since the days of Aquanet.

There are some amazing products on the market, that when used, can drastically reduce hair damage. In fact, I even wrote a whole post about 5 of the top heat protectants, and they are all pretty amazing.

Heat protectants essentially work by placing a protective barrier between your hair and the 400-degree curling iron, while sealing in moisture and reducing frizz.

If you choose to put your hair through the wringer of daily heat styling (don’t worry- I do it too), you absolutely NEED to invest in a good heat protectant.

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4. Not Getting Regular Trims

Not trimming your hair can wreck it. Find out what other 6 things you do every day are trashing your hair!

Healthy hair has a nice smooth cuticle that shuts down (the cuticle is the scale-like protective layer of your hair). When damaging factors start working your hair, the cuticle starts to open up, causing a rougher appearance to the naked eye.

As hair gets more and more damaged, the cuticle has a harder time closing down and will eventually start to lose scales. Without the protective scales, the inner part of the hair shaft will start to get damaged with craters.

This all equates to split ends and damage that can be seen by the naked eye.

When it gets to this point, your hair damage will start to travel up the hair shaft, spreading to healthier hair.

On the other hand, when you trim your hair, even a little bit, you’ll stop the damage in its tracks. Although a small trim won’t entirely take away the breakage, it will make a huge difference in your hair’s future.

I’ve talked about this a million times on this blog, but it’s such a powerful analogy that I have to say it again… Think of your hair like a piece of frayed rope. If you don’t do anything to it, the rope will continue to fray and will become more and more damaged as time goes on.

If you cut and burn the rope, right above the fray, it will be good as new.

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5. Towel-Drying Your Hair

Towel-drying your hair can wreck it. Find out what other 6 things you do every day are trashing your hair!

Yes, you’ll often hear that you should be towel-drying your hair vs. using a hairdryer as the heat from the dryer will strip your hair’s moisture. However, did you ever think that towel-drying could be equally as damaging if you don’t do it right?

First off, you need to be gentle with the towel. I know it may be tempting to turn your head upside down and vigorously rub your hair until it’s half-way dry, but doing so is bad news. Can you even imagine how much friction occurs when you rub your hair that hard?

Next, terry cloth, in itself, is horrible for your hair. Its rough texture catches hair strands and rips right through them, trashing your hair. Furthermore, it’s known to cause serious frizz.

Mix terry cloth together with vigorous movement and your hair will be toast.

The best thing to do is to use an old cotton t-shirt to gently blot the water from your hair. Remember that your hair is more vulnerable when wet and you need to take extra care to protect it.

6. Not Using Conditioner

Not conditioning your hair can wreck it. Find out what other 6 things you do every day are trashing your hair!

This one might seem like common sense, but it’s a bigger problem than you’d think.

Throughout all my years as a hairstylist, and even during my stint at Sally Beauty Supply, I’ve heard many people talk about how they hate using conditioner. They say it weighs down the hair and makes it feel greasy, so they nix it altogether.

However, using a conditioner is a really super important part of a hair regimen and you shouldn’t skip it. Conditioner moisturizes the hair and makes it easier to detangle. It also helps fill in the broken parts of the hair shaft, so they don’t continue to break.

If you aren’t using a conditioner, you need to start, like, yesterday.

If you’re worried about weighing down your hair, go for a lighter option like a volumizing conditioner. It will make a huge difference in your hair health.

7. Playing With Your Hair

Twirling your hair can wreck it. Find out what other 6 things you do every day are trashing your hair!

Okay… I’m guilty as charged, because I play with my hair all the time. I even went through a phase where I was specifically twirling sections of hair that were really damaged until it all broke off.

When you twirl your hair or play with it at all, you cause a lot of friction between the different pieces of hair. Furthermore, you’re risking serious tangles that will result in breakage.

This is a habit you really need to stop if you want better hair. Continuing to twirl your hair can only end badly.

Final Thoughts

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The key takeaway here is that since your hair is already dead, you need to keep it as healthy as possible.

The more damaged it gets, the harder it will be to repair and the more work you’ll have to put into it. Remember to be gentle with your hair and keep the damage at bay.

Now that you know about these breakage instigators, you can drop them like a bad habit and start working towards healthier hair today!

Until next time,


Last update on 2024-07-12 / Affiliate links / Images from Amazon Product Advertising API